Great Teachings...

CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship.Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.


NO POINTING FINGERS

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.


NO OVERPOWERING

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations...


RIGHT SPEECH

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.


TRUST
is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and end may result in separation.







BE PATIENT

Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.





PERSONAL PERCEPTION

Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..

A Matter of Choice

Immaturity is thinking that you have all the answers. Wisdom is knowing that you don't.

Weakness is wanting to control everything around you. Strength is gracefully accepting and valuing what is.


Insecurity is the constant, gnawing desire to have more and more. Confidence is knowing that you already are enough.


Failure is thinking that you can advance yourself by pushing others down. Success is understanding that the more you lift others up, the more you'll be lifted yourself.


Despair is committing yourself to shallow, superficial things that too soon will wither and die. Joy is filling your world and your life with the things that truly matter.


Every moment, you are fully capable of living with wisdom, strength, confidence, success and joy. It's not a matter of chance, but always a matter of choice.


And you can make the choices now that will surely take you there.

Let your efforts flow

Trying too hard can often be as unproductive as not trying at all. Pushing yourself too hard sends an unspoken yet powerful message that you lack confidence in your own efforts.

Instead of forcing your efforts, seek to simply let them flow. Instead of being consumed with thoughts of how much or
how little progress you're making, focus on the real substance of the effort.


When you wander a little off track, there's no need to despair or to work yourself up over it. Put that energy into pointing yourself back in the right direction.


Real progress will come at the pace at which you can give yourself fully and sincerely to the effort. If you attempt to rush the process, you may accumulate some meager tokens of success, but you will fall short of achieving real success itself.


Life already has enough pressures. There is no need to add more by pressuring yourself. Relax and let your efforts flow. That is how you can be your very best.



-- Ralph Marston

Smile on Life

Give the world a smile today. Smile at nothing
and it becomes something, something warm and precious to smile about.

Look at life with loving eyes. You'll see so very much to love and to appreciate.


Where life has been, and where it is going, converge in the moment thatis now. Give your best, be your best right now, for now is everythingwith which you can work.


Think the most powerful, positive, uplifting thought you can imagine,and ask yourself this. How can you express that positive power right now?


Smile on life with your own special smile, right now. And life will smile back in ways that will truly delight you.



-- Ralph Marston